For the mama who needs more than just “lavender for sleep” – this is about oils that actually support you through the beautiful mess of motherhood.

Let me paint you a picture: it’s 9 AM, I have four kids to get ready, homeschool lessons to prep, and I just realized we’re out of milk. Again. My 8-month-old is fussy, my 6-year-old can’t find his favorite shirt, and I’m standing in my kitchen wondering how I’m going to make it through another day.

Sound familiar?

This is where essential oils have become more than just nice-smelling additions to my routine – they’ve become emotional anchors that help me navigate the intensity of motherhood with a little more grace and a lot more presence.

Beyond the Basic Lavender Advice

Don’t get me wrong – lavender is lovely. But when you’re deep in the trenches of raising four kids while homeschooling, managing a household, and trying to keep your own head above water, you need oils that work as hard as you do.

Over this past year of fully embracing both homeschooling and natural living, I’ve discovered specific blends that support me through the unique challenges we face as moms. These aren’t just pretty scents – they’re tools that help me show up as the mother I want to be, even on the hardest days.

My Essential Arsenal for Motherhood

Valor: Courage in a Bottle

There are moments in motherhood when you need to dig deep and find strength you didn’t know you had. For me, Valor has become my “courage oil” – especially when I need to tackle things in public with all four kids in tow.

Grocery shopping with a baby, 6-year-old, 9-year-old, and 11-year-old? I roll Valor on my wrists before we leave the house. It’s like putting on invisible armor. Whether it’s the woodsy scent grounding me or the ritual of applying it reminding me I can handle this, Valor helps me find the strength to navigate challenging situations with confidence.

Frankincense: The Sacred Pause

Frankincense has earned its place as my daily companion. There’s something about its rich, grounding aroma that creates an instant sense of calm in our often chaotic home.

I diffuse it during our morning routine to set a peaceful tone, or simply inhale it straight from the bottle when I need a moment to center myself. With a baby who still wakes at night and three other children who need me present during the day, frankincense helps me find those sacred pauses that keep me sane.

It’s become my reminder that even in the midst of endless to-do lists and constant needs, I can find moments of peace.

Peace and Calming: The Evening Reset

If you’ve ever tried to get four children settled for bed, you know it’s not always the peaceful process Pinterest makes it seem. Peace and Calming has become our family’s transition oil – the scent that signals it’s time to slow down and prepare for rest.

I diffuse it in the bedrooms about a before bedtime, and the kids have come to associate that gentle aroma with winding down. It’s amazing how something so simple can help shift the energy from daytime chaos to evening calm.

For me personally, I’ll often apply it to the bottoms of my feet after everyone else is in bed – it’s my way of telling my body and mind that the day is done and it’s okay to rest.

Joy: More Than Just a Pretty Name

This one surprised me with how much I needed it, especially during my postpartum season with our baby. Joy isn’t just a mood booster – it’s a lifeline during those seasons when everything feels heavy.

I wear it as a perfume almost daily now. There’s something about starting the day with that uplifting floral scent that reminds me to look for beauty even when I’m running on three hours of sleep. During those difficult postpartum months when everything felt overwhelming, Joy helped me remember that there was still light to be found.

It’s become my daily dose of optimism, applied right to my pulse points like a gentle reminder that joy can coexist with exhaustion.

Stress Away: My Emotional Support Oil

If I could only choose one oil to keep forever, it would probably be Stress Away. This blend has become my emotional support system in oil form. I use it both as a nighttime ritual and as a daytime perfume when I need that extra layer of emotional support.

At night, I roll it on my wrists and take a few deep breaths before bed – it helps me release the day’s tensions and worries. But I also wear it during the day when I know I’m facing particularly challenging situations or when my anxiety is running high.

It’s like having a therapist in a bottle. The vanilla-lime scent is comforting without being overwhelming, and it’s become my go-to when I need to feel emotionally supported.

Making Oils Work in Real Life

Here’s the thing about essential oils and busy motherhood – they only help if you actually use them. I’ve learned to keep my routine simple and integrated into what I’m already doing:

Morning Ritual: While I have my Ningxia Red for energy support, I apply Joy as my daily perfume and get the diffuser going with Frankincense.

Before Public Outings: A quick roll of Valor on my wrists – it takes 10 seconds but makes all the difference.

Evening Wind-Down: Peace and Calming in the diffuser while we do bedtime routines, Stress Away on my pulse points before I head to bed.

As Needed: Frankincense straight from the bottle for those “I need a moment” situations that happen throughout the day.

The Real Talk About Natural Support

I want to be clear – essential oils aren’t magic. They don’t solve the underlying challenges of motherhood or replace professional support when it’s needed. But they can be powerful tools in your toolkit for emotional and sensory support.

For me, they’ve become anchors in my day – small rituals that help me stay present and grounded. They’re part of my commitment to natural living, but more than that, they’re part of how I care for myself so I can better care for my family.

Creating Your Own Oil Rhythm

Maybe you’re curious about essential oils but don’t know where to start. Or maybe you have a collection gathering dust because you’re not sure how to make them part of your real, busy life.

Start simple. Choose one time of day – morning, bedtime, or those afternoon moments when you need a reset. Pick one oil that appeals to you and use it consistently for a week. Notice how it makes you feel, how it changes your space, how it might support your emotional landscape.

Essential oils won’t make the dishes disappear or teach your kids math, but they might help you approach both with a little more peace and presence. And sometimes, that makes all the difference.

Why I Choose Young Living

Before I dive into the real talk, I want to share why I specifically use Young Living oils. As a mama committed to natural living, I need to know exactly what I’m putting on my family’s skin and diffusing in our home air.

Young Living’s Seed to Seal promise means they control every step – from planting the seeds to sealing the bottles. That level of transparency and quality control matters to me, especially when I’m using these oils daily with four kids, including a baby.

They’re actually better than organic standards, and here’s what really convinced me: they let you visit their farms. We’re planning to visit their lavender farms next year with all the kids and my husband – how amazing is that? Being able to see where your oils come from and how they’re made gives me confidence in what I’m bringing into our home.

Ready to Try Young Living for Yourself?

If you’re interested in experiencing these oils for your own family, I’d love to help you get started! You can order from Young Living using the link below:

https://www.youngliving.com/us/en/referral/4664955

OR by going directly to Young Living’s website and using my referral code: 4664955. The name will pop up as LaiOshae Martin, that’s me!

Here’s my special offer for new customers: After you place your 100 PV order, simply message me “done” and once I confirm your order and you receive it, I’ll send you $25 via Zelle or PayPal as my way of welcoming you to this natural living journey!

I’m here to support you as you discover how these amazing oils can fit into your own family’s rhythm. Feel free to reach out with any questions – I love connecting with other mamas who are interested in natural wellness for their families.

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What natural tools help you navigate the intensity of motherhood? I’d love to hear about your go-to supports – whether they’re oils, teas, rituals, or something else entirely. We’re all learning to care for ourselves so we can care for our families.

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Disclaimer: These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This post reflects my personal experience with essential oils and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. Always consult with your healthcare provider before using essential oils, especially if you are pregnant, nursing, or have any health conditions.